I apologize I havent read through everything, but if the Mass Mailing issue has found a compromise and whats left is what shit hit the fan and how it did hit the fan, then perhaps people can agree that:
shit hit the fan, feelings ran high, misunderstandings and half understandings abunded in the mix?
To me, I find it hard to believe that anyone goes out of their way to go after someone who just lost their father on purpose. - Regardless of what timelines goes where (again, Im sorry, I cant keep track of it), I find it likely that information probably was available but was missed, halfunderstood, not connected to the prope place untill after feelings were hurt in an obviously fragile and sad situation which then spiralled into angry feelings between others with a certain amount of of stubbornness and not much focus on flexibility from both or even several sides.
I think at this point, some breathing was done and some of the dust settled...?
The discussion has now moved to who was how wrong about what...
Possibly it would be fair to everyone to say that a few stubborn and perhaps even hard headed people have been involved in a debacle where shit hit the fan and stuff was said in the heat of the moment that was perhaps not often hmmm eloquently phrased. Half certainties became almost certainties which became THIS IS HOW IT IS AND ME AND MY BASEBALL BAT SAYS SO.
I would imagine that not every bruised feeling and every offence taken can be properly mended though they will hopefully diminish or dissipate over time.
Im thinking that Ive seen Craig apogize and offer condolences for the initial situation but maintain that the context only became clear to him later.
I base this not a detailed perusal of an accurate timeline, but on simple probability.
If I put out a few adjectives such as stubborn, hardheaded, direct, gruff at times, Im thinking that Im not insulting anybody by assuming that it fits the key people in the current leftover debate. - I think Craig has written the gist of that into the rules somewhere, so I feel fairly confident that he will take little offense at that. And Im thinking that a certain degree of the above adjectives is more or less a job requirement to be a mod in pretty much any online game/forum?
Can we leave it at that... Craig bruised some feelings, offered apoligies and condolences, Perhaps he could have or should have known or picked up earlier that there was a situation.
Perhaps mods could have and/or should have given more credence to Guardians of the Galaxy adage: "I dont believe anyone is 100 % an arsehole" and not hack into stone something that might not deserved the stone tablet or use of the chisel - even if some or most of it was intended for a closed circle rather than the full public.
Perhaps there was some pressure inactied on the whole process by obtaining and sharing stuff in public that wasnt neccessarily intended to, but then again, - what would have happened if that hadnt been done, and was it even maybe a good thing in some respects that a situation perhaps spiralling out of hand got some extra attention and debate.
Perhaps mistakes were made because there was shit hitting the fan and most people involved were pissed off.
Could we leave it at that. - Agree that its all a bit messy. Agree that not everyone has to agree completely, Accept that some people will think of each other a bit less friendly but let the majority of the shit and maybe even the fan and the spunges used to clean the ceiling and the walls drift out to sea...?
Im thinking that Im not the only one on the sidelines that have no more energy or interest to invest into increasingly minute points - though I of course realize that when you have a place in the center of it those details seem if not huge then at least crucial to the whole debacle and will be hard to let go of.
I remind people that to forgive or at least let some stuff go is Divine. - Not that Im pretending to be God. - Not today. I get Sundays off.
Best regards,
Tviorr
