Hi Coffecream,
You've certainly got some indepth questions. As usual with anything I post, if it helps great if not disregard it in favor of the words of others. I will say that this time I had to go back to reread the scripture and see what I could make of your questions based on my own study.
CoffeeCream wrote:I've been away for awhile working but also reading. The Bible certainly is a lot different than what I've been told. So I'm reading in Romans now as well. A friend told me that Romans is like the Constitution of the Bible. I have to say that the first chapter disturbed me very much. In Romans it condems just about everything.
I'm not sure I understand your friend's simile comparing
Romans to the Constitution. I'll have to reread with that in mind to truly evaluate the idea for myself. I would say that the New Testamant isn't as focused on laws as the Old Testament. I'd have assumed that the Books of Laws (Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy) would also vie for this title. There certainly is law in Paul's writing, but I see it more as an attempt on Paul's part, to address the needs of the various early Christian congregations instead of an overall set of laws. These letters do contain a great deal of wisdom in terms of leading a Christian life.
CoffeeCream wrote:These are the things I found in just Romans 1 that are condemned:
Idol worship, sexual impurity, worshipping creatures instead of God, homosexual behavior, envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice, gossiping, slandering, hating God, insolence, being arrogant and boastful, and being disobedient to your parents. That's quite a list.
These are certainly not desireable qualities, according to the Bible, but this isn't the first time in the Bible most of them are specifically denounced. So, I don't think Paul is breaking new ground or laying down the law for us.
CoffeeCream wrote:So Jesus Freaks most of these I understand because they're easy. How would you define sexual impurity though? Would it be committing adultery or just having sex without being married? I was thinking it's people who engage in things you would only see on some weird porno site. Also, how would you define strife? How does someone commit the sin of strife?
As I understand it sexual impurity is any sexual activity that is outside of a monogymous relationship. Whether marriage (or even differing genders) are necessary is up to interpretation. Paul goes on later to state that "love covers a multitude of sins". I certainly think there are worse things people can do than love each other.
Now to the actual point

. I do not think Paul is condemning all of these things in this passage. Instead he appears to be using them as examples of immorality, (perhaps these were common in Rome). He has made the point that no one can claim ignorance of God because his creations are everywhere, but that some willfully deny him and applaud others who do the same. When he speaks fo God's wrath this is what he seems to focus on. The other vices are used to show to what depths we can sink. I do not see a list of crimes to be condemned here, largely because there is no prescribed punishment for them (only that they will eventually incur God's wrath). I think this also part of your objection to disobediance and gossip being in the same list a murder and adultry. If it is just a list of representative immoral behaviors, then this is not truly an organized list of sins to be singled out as heinous.
Strife, as others have stated, is contentious behavior. I'm guilty of it as are many others. Paul writes in other letters though that Christians are to "walk in light" that is not to be enslaved by their sinful desires. I think that strife in this case is the inner conflict between conscience and sinful drives. Paul sees us as being no longer subject to sin (Yes, we do still sin) in that now Christ dwells in us and the Holy Spirit aids us in resisting temptations. I'm probably way off base from the question you asked, but hopefully there was something in there that was worthwhile.
CoffeeCream wrote:Here's another thing to think about. Can it be true that gossiping about someone or disobeying your parents is really as bad as murder? I know lots of people that disobey their parents. I don't think that's as bad as murdering someone though. I hope you don't think I'm justifying disrespect towards a parent, it's just hard to stomach some of these things being as bad as others.
Instead of thinking in the court system model (ie. sins are crimes which deserve varying levels of punishment and God is the judge that meets out those punishments) it might be more helpful to think in terms of a relationship with God. I don't deny that some sins are more hurtful than others, but as far as your relationship with God every sin is saying "God, I don't care what you want for me. I'm going to do this right in front of you" so in this case even small sins are a danger. Think about how many marriages end because of all of the "little things". Sometimes one huge sin horrifies the perpertrator and induces repentance and a positive change, while a daily habit of seeking to anger or insult others may have a more lasting negative effect. When a choice to sin becomes a habit of sin then there is the beginning of a real problem.
The beginning of Romans 2 is important as well. It begins with an admonition not to judge others because everyone may be subject to the same sins. (I read it as "don't get on your high horse Anglican, I know you too well").