I dont no whether this is the right place, its the forum i have used most and the place i have met many new friends.
My father died suddenly last night, i lived with him and my mother for the past 13yrs on our farm in england. So many tears have been shed over the last hours. he always showed an interest in my gaming and in the friends i made online. For those of you who believe please say a little prayer for a beautiful father. my new responsabilities will mean less gaming for me. thank you all. my next game i play in my fathers memory.
and for those that care tell your parents you love them, often
I have just read the replies that you all left and am moved beyond words. Thank you thank you, you have all made this new journey in my life bearable. I love you guys even though we have never met. thank you
Last edited by Rowney on Sun Jul 19, 2009 11:28 am, edited 1 time in total.
I am so sorry. We lost my father-in-law this past winter, but he was also ill for some time, so its definitely not the same.
Just know that the pain you feel is for you and, while it will never go away, it does get easier. Take your time to grieve, then take what you have learned from him and make him proud.
PS this might be better in turtle soup, but I doubt anybody will really be upset that you posted here.
Very sorry to hear Romney. Losing a parent is indeed painful. Like player, my Mother was ill for a long time, so there was no shock, which does change things. The loss however will be with you for the rest of your life, and you will never get over it, however, you can make it better by living a good life and making him proud. For now though, all you can do is be there for your Mom.
I'm Spanking Monkey now....err...I mean I'm a Spanking Monkey now...that shoots milk Too much. I know.
my dad died off cancer 20 years ago when i was 18. it hurts , but eventually you'll get over it. my dad has been dead longer now in my life than he was alive.
Rowney wrote:I dont no whether this is the right place, its the forum i have used most and the place i have met many new friends.
My father died suddenly last night, i lived with him and my mother for the past 13yrs on our farm in england. So many tears have been shed over the last hours. he always showed an interest in my gaming and in the friends i made online. For those of you who believe please say a little prayer for a beautiful father. my new responsabilities will mean less gaming for me. thank you all. my next game i play in my fathers memory.
and for those that care tell your parents you love them, often
I don't know you Rowney, but I am very sorry for your loss. Hang in there, get through it, and get your family through it.
...I prefer a man who will burn the flag and then wrap himself in the Constitution to a man who will burn the Constitution and then wrap himself in the flag.
I don't know you either, but I hope you can get through the tough time. I almost didn't want to read the thread, because I had feeling it was going to bad news.
Rowney wrote:I dont no whether this is the right place, its the forum i have used most and the place i have met many new friends.
My father died suddenly last night, i lived with him and my mother for the past 13yrs on our farm in england. So many tears have been shed over the last hours. he always showed an interest in my gaming and in the friends i made online. For those of you who believe please say a little prayer for a beautiful father. my new responsabilities will mean less gaming for me. thank you all. my next game i play in my fathers memory.
and for those that care tell your parents you love them, often
Though I don't know you either, I grieve for your loss, and as requested, I already started praying. I believe you will see your father again. Whether you believe that or not, I feel sure you will make him proud, because you show great character by the caring evident in your post.
The right answer to the wrong question is still the wrong answer to the real question.
I am sorry for your loss. My family will be praying for you and your family. May God bless your entire family and give you strength and comfort during this most difficult time.
Rowney wrote:I dont no whether this is the right place, its the forum i have used most and the place i have met many new friends.
My father died suddenly last night, i lived with him and my mother for the past 13yrs on our farm in england. So many tears have been shed over the last hours. he always showed an interest in my gaming and in the friends i made online. For those of you who believe please say a little prayer for a beautiful father. my new responsabilities will mean less gaming for me. thank you all. my next game i play in my fathers memory.
and for those that care tell your parents you love them, often
From this brief description of your father, it seems as though he really got alot of joy from seeing you enjoy yourself. If this is the case, then you know how he would want you to continue your life. I'm so sorry for your lose. It's tough and it does take a while to get over but it'll get better. There will be a period of sorrow, then a period of adjustment while you get use to him not being around but once you get past that then you'll get back on track. Best of luck and may God bless you in every aspect of your life.
Things are now unfolding that only prophecy can explain!
I am very sorry for you loss. Eleven years ago I lost my mom. It was sudden. My father has had heart issues and heart attacks and loss of use of most of his heart for almost 20 years now so when I got the call that my mother suffered a heart attack I thought the message was mixed and they meant my father. I was in New Jersey going to college and my parents lived in upstate New York (some 300 plus miles away, a 7 hour drive). I called up to the hospital and they said they would transfer me to the family room. I knew that meant that whomever it was had died and I was prepared for it to be my father. I was ready for it to be my father. I had made my peace with that and said my goodbyes every time I saw him just in case. But I had not expected my father to get on the phone and his words shot through my heart just as hard as if an arrow had him me. He had, "Mom is gone, she died in arms." I found myself seeing stars and could barely breathe. She was not sick and was not in bad health. How could she be dead? How could she be gone? I had not said my goodbyes? I had not made peace with her? Not that our relationship was bad, but I was not ready for this if one could ever be ready for death. Two things happened to show me that God had a plan that was beyond me and that I didn't understand.
First was the night before she died. My then three year old daughter on the way home from a Bible study suddenly starts crying. We asked her what was wrong and she said, "I don't want Nana to go and be with Jesus." We told her that Nana was fine and that she was not going to be with Jesus. She told us, "Jesus just told me that Nana was going to be with him." We got home and called my mom and talked with her and my dad later told me that call meant the world to her because it showed her just how much we loved her. Of course, we loved her. But this call allowed me to talk to my mom several hours before she died and tell her and show her how much I love her.
Second was my uncle David, whom I had not seen in a long time, came to the funeral. I was doing my best to keep everything together for my dad. Well, there was a moment, when it just all hit me and my uncle was there for me. And he said something that I will never forget. He said, "Your mom is now walking in the streets of gold never to worry about single thing again." I don't know how much he really knew about my mother's worrying about bills and my dad and us kids all the time but she worried a lot. And now she didn't need to worry any more. I knew that was a message to me that God had taken her hand and was walking with her on the streets of gold in heaven.
When they did the autopsy on my mom they discovered that she had a sickness that had she lived she would have started to suffer. God spared her.
I can't tell you as much as I would like why you father died. And as much as I would like, I can't tell you that things will be a rose garden and easy, because there is a good chance they may not be. But I can tell that some how and some way God has not abandoned you or your family and somewhere in all of this tragedy God has a plan that we can not see and we may not see until heaven. I can tell you that if you keep your heart open and willing God will show you, at least if nothing else, a glimpse into the plan like he did me. It will not take the pain of loss away. Since my mom's passing I have had another son and I often think how much my mother would have loved to see him. And my oldest child, the one who was told by Jesus that my mom was going to be with him, now plays the clarinet just like my mom. And I can't help but think of my mom when she plays and how much my mom would have loved to see her play. Yes, I think of her in heaven looking down. But I still miss her. But I know that she is with God and God has a plan and I trust in him. Keep your chin up. It sounds like your father was a great man who did a great job in raising you this far. Just keep on the path and know that now your father is directly speaking with God to help directly your life instead of doing it through prayer.
