A Girl Dilemma

[ParadiceCity9]

O.K. so, here is the whole story up until last night:

(btw this is the extremely short story. in the case that you for whatever reason would like to hear the details, just PM me)

I was at a golf camp in the summer of '07 and there was one girl there; she and I made eye contact a lot and it was obvious we wanted to talk to each other. So on the very last day of the camp, everything happened the way it had to for us to finally talk to each other. I got her number and her AIM screen name, and that night we talked for an hour on AIM, a total of 6 hours the next day, and something like 4 and a half the next. So obviously, things were going good. We would eventually go on two dates to the mall, where we saw a movie each time and did some shopping (the second date went much better than the first, but that is not implying that the first one was bad). So after the second one, she stopped getting online. I figured she was busy, you know, so I respected that and didn't bother calling her or anything because that would make me look kind of like a dick. So like a month passed or something, and she would get on probably once a month now at this time. We'd just have this super awkward, 5-minute conversation each time. So at this point, we've pretty much just stopped talking.

Then December came along. I ended up bumping into her (literally) at the mall. We talked for like 2 minutes, and that was actually surprising not-awkward at all. But that didn't exactly help matters because we would not talk or see each other again for a very long time. That is, until last night. I was at my high school's football game (go hornets, score of 27-6!), and everything was going swimmingly. Half-time came along, and guess who shows up. That girl. She's with this dude from my school who's at least 9 feet tall, and she ends up sitting like 3 rows in front of me. So I'm like freakin' out 'what the f*ck why is she here!' I said to my friend next to me (he had no idea what I was talking about). But I guess she saw me (I was trying to avoid her) so earlier today, around 4 when I was at my friends house playing guitar, she texts me something like 'Hey! why didn't you say hi to me last night?!' So I'm thinking 'ah shit'. But I just kinda remembered what good times we'd had and how pretty she was, so I decided to text back. We ended up texting for like an hour, then I went to another friend's hockey game.

So now I'm trying to decide what to do. Should I text her 'hey what's up?' or somethin..should I wait until some time tomorrow to do that..should I send her a message on facebook (which would be kinda useless since I don't even check mine anymore)..or should I just let her go. I'd really like to get with her again though, she's seriously one of the best people I've ever met -- she's really nice, fun and easy to talk to, beautiful, the works.

And this is where you come in. I need some advice on how to approach this situation.

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GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!

[LiveYourLife]

hiya, when you say she was with this guy, do you mean gf/bf wise? if so does that mean she thought you two broke up? or were you never bf/gf to start? if u were together and she showed up with this other guy then i dont think shes worth your time, but maybe it was a misunderstanding in which case you should talk to her.

hoped thats helped.

[Skittles!]

Beat that other guy in an eating hot dog competition, that'll sure get her.

[ParadiceCity9]

No I don't think we were ever officially 'together'. Like we never actually said that we liked each other, it was just severely implied as we went on two dates, just the two of us...
And I dno if they were bf/gf because I never saw them holding hands, kissing, any of that. And it doesn't say shes in a relationship on her facebook so I dno.

[LiveYourLife]

you never know it might be her brother or her cousin or something, i think you should talk to her and straighten it out

[hecter]

Well, you have two options.

1. Stay away from her and never have a relationship with her
or
2. Talk to her and risk getting the shit beat out of you

Have fun!

[InkL0sed]

Go for it.

[LiveYourLife]

why would he get the shit beat out of him...

[ParadiceCity9]

Go for it.

details would be nice.

And no I don't think they are cousins. and LYL, when you say 'straighten it out', that sounds a little..serious. lol

[ParadiceCity9]

why would he get the shit beat out of him...

because he is nine feet tall. and he's a senior and i'm just a lowly junior.

[hecter]

why would he get the shit beat out of him...

because he is nine feet tall. and he's a senior and i'm just a lowly junior.

And if he finds out that you're trying to stick your meat pole into his girlfriend he's not going to be happy.

[LiveYourLife]

well its not a serious problem then? why do you need help


edit: and ok lol, well i think you should ask anyway! then get the shit beaten out of you

[ParadiceCity9]

well its not a serious problem then? why do you need help


edit: and ok lol, well i think you should ask anyway! then get the shit beaten out of you

lol well I don't wanna just be like 'yo who's that dude you were with at the game?' I want it to somehow come up in a conversation I guess.

and the serious thing - it is a serious problem. Just when you say 'straighten it out' it sounds like i'm like, putting her in place lol and that's the bad kind of serious

[InkL0sed]

Go for it.

details would be nice.

And no I don't think they are cousins. and LYL, when you say 'straighten it out', that sounds a little..serious. lol

She obviously wants you. And all signs (especially the facebook thing) seem to be pointing to her not having a boyfriend.

My advice: ask her out plainly. Then there's no waffling space for her.

[hecter]

Well, the solution that's the least likely to cause problems is "Yo, who's that guy you were with?"

[InkL0sed]

Well, the solution that's the least likely to cause problems is "Yo, who's that guy you were with?"

Yeah, there's that, too.

[ParadiceCity9]

Well, the solution that's the least likely to cause problems is "Yo, who's that guy you were with?"

Yeah, there's that, too.

OK so recap.

Would it best to...

1.) text her that right now

2.) text her that some time tomorrow

3.) text her 'hey what's up' right now

4.) text her 'hey what's up' some time tomorrow

I don't really remember if she stays up late at all and I don't wanna keep her up...

[hecter]

Well, the solution that's the least likely to cause problems is "Yo, who's that guy you were with?"

Yeah, there's that, too.

OK so recap.

Would it best to...

1.) text her that right now

2.) text her that some time tomorrow

3.) text her 'hey what's up' right now

4.) text her 'hey what's up' some time tomorrow

I don't really remember if she stays up late at all and I don't wanna keep her up...

Try texing her "Hey, sorry for not saying high but that giant you were with was scaring me..."

[ParadiceCity9]

Well, the solution that's the least likely to cause problems is "Yo, who's that guy you were with?"

Yeah, there's that, too.

OK so recap.

Would it best to...

1.) text her that right now

2.) text her that some time tomorrow

3.) text her 'hey what's up' right now

4.) text her 'hey what's up' some time tomorrow

I don't really remember if she stays up late at all and I don't wanna keep her up...

Try texing her "Hey, sorry for not saying high but that giant you were with was scaring me..."

no dude i've already been through all of that. that was in the convo we had earlier.

[0ojakeo0]

Does she play soccer? You could tell her you wanna play and can use ur dick for her goal. be sensitive around the posts though.

[hecter]

Well, then ask who that guy was in the first few texts... Get it over with.

[jonesthecurl]

Side step the whole question of your/her and her/giantman relationships.

Text her, or contact her in some other way, the next time there's a game or some other event which you might both reasonably be going to, ask if she's going, say you're looking forward to meeting again.

If you feel particularly bold, ask if her bf's gonna be there too. She might say yes, no, or I don't have a bf (right now/any more/whatever).

These things'll give you a clue to what sort of friendship/realtionship is plausible.

But above all don't lose touch with someone you feel you might have real feelings for just because you're a bit unsure of your welcome.

[Hologram]

okay, so the basis of any relationship is having good communication. If you want to start pursuing her in some way, you should find some way to communicate. If not, then whatev. It's your choice, you figure it out.

[ParadiceCity9]

Side step the whole question of your/her and her/giantman relationships.

Text her, or contact her in some other way, the next time there's a game or some other event which you might both reasonably be going to, ask if she's going, say you're looking forward to meeting again.

If you feel particularly bold, ask if her bf's gonna be there too. She might say yes, no, or I don't have a bf (right now/any more/whatever).

These things'll give you a clue to what sort of friendship/realtionship is plausible.

But above all don't lose touch with someone you feel you might have real feelings for just because you're a bit unsure of your welcome.

That was a great post...thanks jones I'll likely be going by this approach.

[InkL0sed]

That's basically what we've all been telling you...