Hóla!
One easy
solution 
to all the annoying
deadebating could be to "separate" frequent players from more occational ones.
This could be done by having an option for
"short or long games", where the "short"-option for example could have as a rule to kick people out after one missed turn, and the "long" 3 or 4 turns (maybe even have the "normal" as well, with 3 turns).
This is according to me of same importance as to choose map or number of players and so on, and would most certainly satisfy more players.
The obvious answer is of course to become a premium...!, but that wont work for all... Personally I don´t want to become premium because of my lack of discipline (and my girlfriend´s

cruel anger......C.C is taking way too much time as it is... at least that´s what she thinks...
/Ekiss