Kicked out of TOFU
Posted: Tue Apr 02, 2019 5:09 amSo I just wanted to clear something up before the rumour mill does it's thing as a few people seem to know already!
This morning I found out I've been kicked out of TOFU.
I imagine this isn't that interesting to most of you, but as word gets around, I just wanted to make what happened known publicly. That way, you can make your own assessment (or don't bother, as there are better things to do!). At least if you choose to think I'm a bad guy, you'll be making your decision off accurate info!
The incident that caused TOFU to give me the old boot:
In game, an old established TOFU member said "but I bet you get off on hitting women too dont you . So shut the f*ck up dont speak another word"
I reacted quite strongly to that. Perhaps because a few female family members suffered at the hands of domestic violence, perhaps just because it's quite an awful thing to say.
I dropped the "C-Bomb" at them, a few times. They got offended, so I told them not to be a "C-Bomb" and maybe they wouldn't get called it. Etc etc, and things escalated (on both sides).
They then posted on my wall multiple times, each time reposting the same thing after I had deleted it. Eventually after 3-4 times of this happening, I posted on their wall once, and they proceeded to say that by posting on their wall I was stalking them.
Of course, there was back and forth before that, and whilst I don't think I was the main culprit, I certainly could have reacted better. That's pretty much the crux of it though, I'm out.
TOFU didn't give me the chance to apologise, although to be honest I wouldn't have anyway so maybe that's for the best! I think that reaction is entirely acceptable in response to such a statement. I would do the same again.
It is particularly surprising to me that someone who lists #metoo as an occupation would treat violence toward women with such trivial disdain.
I don't really mind not being in TOFU. I got on well with about half the people there, but had already placed myself as inactive for clan games due to internal concerns that had been expressed by more than one of the newer members.
Anyway, who knows what the future holds for me. I suspect it will be good
Edit: Whilst I can't apologise to the person in question, I want to add that I can and do apologise to the friends I have in Tofu for not being the best version of myself in this situation. I don't think what I did was unacceptable, but neither was it optimal. Had I acted optimally, I'm sure this would have been avoided. Enjoyed playing with most of you, and it's a shame to end on a negative.
This morning I found out I've been kicked out of TOFU.
I imagine this isn't that interesting to most of you, but as word gets around, I just wanted to make what happened known publicly. That way, you can make your own assessment (or don't bother, as there are better things to do!). At least if you choose to think I'm a bad guy, you'll be making your decision off accurate info!
The incident that caused TOFU to give me the old boot:
In game, an old established TOFU member said "but I bet you get off on hitting women too dont you . So shut the f*ck up dont speak another word"
I reacted quite strongly to that. Perhaps because a few female family members suffered at the hands of domestic violence, perhaps just because it's quite an awful thing to say.
I dropped the "C-Bomb" at them, a few times. They got offended, so I told them not to be a "C-Bomb" and maybe they wouldn't get called it. Etc etc, and things escalated (on both sides).
They then posted on my wall multiple times, each time reposting the same thing after I had deleted it. Eventually after 3-4 times of this happening, I posted on their wall once, and they proceeded to say that by posting on their wall I was stalking them.
Of course, there was back and forth before that, and whilst I don't think I was the main culprit, I certainly could have reacted better. That's pretty much the crux of it though, I'm out.
TOFU didn't give me the chance to apologise, although to be honest I wouldn't have anyway so maybe that's for the best! I think that reaction is entirely acceptable in response to such a statement. I would do the same again.
It is particularly surprising to me that someone who lists #metoo as an occupation would treat violence toward women with such trivial disdain.
I don't really mind not being in TOFU. I got on well with about half the people there, but had already placed myself as inactive for clan games due to internal concerns that had been expressed by more than one of the newer members.
Anyway, who knows what the future holds for me. I suspect it will be good
Edit: Whilst I can't apologise to the person in question, I want to add that I can and do apologise to the friends I have in Tofu for not being the best version of myself in this situation. I don't think what I did was unacceptable, but neither was it optimal. Had I acted optimally, I'm sure this would have been avoided. Enjoyed playing with most of you, and it's a shame to end on a negative.
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